One of the phrases I heard the most was: "Don't worry, you're going to get pregnant fast, you'll see, just wait, they say that after a loss it's easy to get pregnant again." And others comment that this baby will replace the one you lost and we know that it is not so.
I'm not lying to you, after I regained my strength, my body healed and I was emotionally well, I began to think, who would think of telling someone that one baby replaces another? No one is going to give me back that baby that I lost and don't think that it was only once that I heard such a comment (in different versions, there is no nice or considerate way to say it), after the fifth I stopped paying attention and got even closer to the people who did love me. They brought positivity to my life.
I asked myself a lot of questions when I decided that I could try to get pregnant again and I guess many do too, so let's go over them with some comments:
- What if I lose it again?: Each pregnancy is different, what you can do is try to be as positive as possible, take care of yourself and if you had a complication that you can manage with time, do it, prevention is your best friend.
- What did I do wrong that I can improve?: Unless you have drugged, drunk, smoked or done something to harm your baby, there is nothing you can do but love, love and take care of yourself and your baby.
- And what if he is born premature?: We will talk about this topic later, but let me tell you in advance that there is no way to know if your baby is born premature, let's say that comes as a surprise to us. Some of us may have suspicions due to previous events, but beyond that there is no certainty until it is our turn.
- Will I go past the weeks of gestation in which I lost the previous baby?: There is no way of knowing, so arm yourself with strength and when the date is approaching, take precautionary measures that make you calmer and do not miss your prenatal controls.
In our case, we again had to resort to ovarian stimulation and after 3 rounds, I finally got pregnant with our second baby, again you can't imagine the joy and fear that this new news gave us.
This time with new doctors, a better hospital, more controls and a lot of love/empathy between the couple, the latter and I tell you from the bottom of my heart is what makes the difference when you and your partner are looking for a new baby after winning a star baby.